In honor of Valentine’s Day, we asked five local, long-time couples the secret we all want to know: What makes love last?

BRAD & PENNY BROWN, MARRIED 41 YEARS

  • Be respectful and support each other’s goals and ambitions.
  • Keep dating each other (and look good for each other!)
  • Always look for ways to make each other happy, whether small or big.
  • Keep life light – joke, play pranks, have fun with each other.
  • Go out, even if you are low on money – a cup of coffee, a romantic walk, watch the sunset! Keep life simple and always put each other first.

SHARMILA & KIRAN MEHTA, MARRIED 37 YEARS

  • Mutual care and respect.
  • Open communication and flexibility.
  • Don’t sweat the small stuff
  • Always focus on the big picture!
  • Build on each other’s strengths and not on each other’s weaknesses.

QUINCY & NOCOLA WILLIAMS, MARRIED 27 YEARS

  • Genuinely enjoying each other’s company is so important. We have a lot in common, which makes it easy to spend time together. But even when our interests differ, we are always there to offer support.
  • You may not always agree, but always have respect for one another. Marriage is hard… you have to work at it to make it successful.

LUIS MEJIA & ROXANN JOHNSTON MEJIA, MARRIED 30 YEARS

  • Make plans and never stop dating each other.
  • You must be able to laugh together when things go wrong and when things are bad. It creates unity within a crisis and lightens a heavy heart.
  • Have patience, understanding, and the ability to carry the load when the other cannot.
  • Celebrate the little things, not just the big ones.

JOSEPH JR. & SANDRA MILES, MARRIED 49 YEARS

  • Always respect each other’s opinion and trust your partner.
  • Communication and faith in God.
  • You don’t need to have a plan; you just need each other for your life to form into a relationship of love and respect.
  • Treat your wife like a “Queen,” love her and take her on extravagant trips.