Learn to Love Your Imperfections

The key to having a fulfilling and happy life is accepting yourself. Photo by Jonathan Borba on Unsplash

Do you feel ashamed and annoyed by your imperfections?

Imperfections are a part of your being and make each person more interesting, special, and unique. It is time to learn to accept these characteristics instead of fighting them. You can’t achieve optimal health and wellness if you’re battling inner issues about who you are.

Loving yourself, including your imperfections, doesn’t mean that you don’t have self-improvement goals. You can always strive to strengthen your good qualities and develop skills and characteristics you desire while loving the person you are. Try these techniques to learn to love the imperfections that help make you who you are.

First, acceptance. The key to having a fulfilling and happy life is accepting yourself. Once you acknowledge your imperfections as a unique part of yourself, you can move on to actually loving them. Everyone makes mistakes, has scars, or feels inadequate at some point in their lives. Avoid dwelling on these facets of your life. Make up for them as best as you can and move on.

Let go of the comparisons. If you spend time comparing yourself to others, it’s time to stop. Your journey is unique. You’re not on the same path as others. You may grow and change quite differently, and that’s a good thing! Instead of comparing yourself to someone else, focus on yourself. Notice how you’ve grown, celebrate your accomplishments, and look forward to a bright future with your own goals.

Remember you’re not broken. It’s tempting to view setbacks as permanent, but you can overcome them. Challenges are a part of everyone’s life, so there isn’t anything wrong with you because you have obstacles. Focus on brainstorming a solution and acting on your new approach.

Pay attention to what you say to yourself. There is a direct link between self-talk and your health and mental wellness. Notice if you use negative self-talk that is humiliating or demoralizing. Does your inner dialogue make you feel inferior, ashamed, or guilty? You don’t want your words to create more pain and suffering! Learn to forgive yourself and be gentler. You can change your inner dialogue to words of love and support. Each time you say something negative, immediately change it to something positive instead.

Remember that your days will vary. You may have days that make you feel amazing and on top of the world. You will also have days that make you feel defeated, sad, and tired. This rollercoaster of life is normal. The key is to avoid letting the difficult days affect you long-term. Turn your focus to positive self-talk, solutions, and taking action.

Eliminate the toxic people. Toxic people can make it harder for you to accept and love your imperfections. Reduce contact with those who consistently make you feel bad about yourself. An occasional critique from a loved one or friend is normal. However, constant criticism tends to wear you down. Evaluate your relationships and focus on the ones that are healthier for you.

Celebrate your imperfections! They make you the unique person you are. Use these tips to learn to love yourself inside and out. As a result, you’ll boost your self-confidence, increase your charisma, and gain greater peace as you pursue a life you’ll love.

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Kathleen Stark
Kathleen Stark is a licensed social worker in the state of Maryland. She has a bachelor’s degree in Psychology from University of Maryland, University College, and is a Master of Social Work from Salisbury University, Maryland. Kathleen combines her years as a Social Worker and a psychotherapist with her experience as a cognitive behavioral therapist. She teaches concrete skills to assist women to own their value and create a positive outcome in their personal and professional lives. Kathleen is the founder and owner of Kathleen Stark, LLC and creator of the Transformation Life and Business online coaching program. Kathleen has 10 years of experience working with women in many capacities: trauma healing specialist, empowerment coaching and cognitive behavioral therapist. As a therapist and life coach, she is passionate about connecting with women and guiding them through their challenges. Kathleen integrates her knowledge of women’s issues and her life experiences to guide them in increasing their overall view of self, to decrease struggles with imposter syndrome and gain a full loving relationship with self.